Is hardcore porn preparing children and young people for a good sex life? According to the American Psychology Association, the largest consumers of internet porn are 12 to 17 year-olds.
On today’s podcast, we talk to an advertising industry veteran and entrepreneur who is not afraid to talk about sex education and to stand up for good real-world sex, Cindy Gallop.
Cindy is the founder of the MakeLoveNotPorn website which she launched with a TED Talk in 2009. Her four minute talk quickly and unexpectedly went viral. It currently has over 2.6m views on YouTube. It elevated Cindy into a needed social discourse that is too often hushed.
MakeLoveNotPorn is a social sextech platform designed to promote good sexual behavior and good sexual values by showing good real-world sex. It’s mission is to promote honest and open conversations about sex through the dynamic of social media. It’s vision is a “social sex revolution”. Content is carefully curated and revenue is shared with contributors.
Cindy started the site after she started to see a trend in the young men she dated. Men were behaving badly in bed. They equated good sex with memes from harcore porn. She looked around and realised that hardcore porn had converged with society’s unwillingness to talk about sex education. She wanted to create a platform that showed the joy of real-world sex: consentual and communicative.
A decade on from LoveNotPorn’s launch, we talk to Cindy about why she started the platform, what has changed over that time, what needs to change still, and how we can be that change.
Today’s Guest: Cindy Gallop
Lucinda “Cindy” Gallop was born in the UK.
She earned a Master’s in English Language and Literature from Oxford University.
She began her career as a theatre publicist but moved into the world of advertising, where she has built a stellar 36 year career.
In 1989, she joined the growing advertising firm Bartle Bogle Hegarty. In 1996, she moved to Singapore to start and run BBH’s Asia-Pacific office, which included clients like Levi’s.
In 1998 she started the US branch. By 2002, the branch was named Adweek’s Eastern Agency of the Year, and in 2003, she was named Advertising Woman of the Year. Building on this success, she was appointed to the position of Chairman and President for BBH in the US.
Today, she works as an expert consultant in advertising and in her spare time is trying to make the world a better place. She has founded two influential online platforms: IfWeRanTheWorld (paying it forward with micro-actions) and MakeLoveNotPorn.
“At MakeLoveNotPorn we show you how wonderful, great consentual and communicative sex is in the real world.”
“The only way you educate people as to what is great consentual and communicative sex, good sex, and good sexual behaviour is by watching people having that type of sex”
- Her journey with #makelovenotporn – why it began and why she sincerely believes our values and stories around sex should be a National priority
- How she approaches – and handles herself – as a leader in the multitude of moments where all doors are being slammed shut
- The impact of the porn industry – and how two dimensional and disconnected a conversation becomes – when you exclude 50% of the participants.
- The concept of micro-actions – and why they hold the key to any sustainable change or momentum – including her recommendation for the No.1 micro-action we can all take to completely change the trajectory of our lives.
- And finally – what she’s learned about talking about taboos – and how much one moment can change your life.
- “Everyone of us can change the world in tiny tiny ways, every single day”
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